Although I write this from my perspective and it pertains to my work, this goes for any profession in any walk of life. Listening to that deep down voice is one of the major factors that moves you forward in life and earns you respect.
If someone is wanting so badly to disprove something it means they believe there is something to disprove.
I love skeptics and non-believers. I learn so much from many of them because they at, at the very least, open to the possibilities. By the time they leave my sessions we are both enriched.
I open with this because I lovingly had a woman a couple of days ago who felt I wasn’t connected because I did not choose to read her. I had a niggling bothered feeling even before the call, but I’m always willing to check it out, if anything to confirm.
From the minute I got on the call with her something felt very off. I realized she was only interested in me proving myself and the existence of the other side. Arms crossed, wall up, stern look. She was testing.
I have found that the greatest test that one can administer is to be open and let a practitioner sink or swim. Professionals of any kind have nothing to prove and will willingly show a client the goods in the time of the session without any poking, prodding or provocation.
A few minutes in I recognized that feeling of “get off the phone or this is going to go south” I honoured that.
I was correct, and it almost did go badly. I recognized and listened to my inner guidance and I gave myself permission to gently end the session and refunded this client with the intent of offering a different reader who may have been better for her. No takers. I walked away feeling like I did justice to the reading and hopeful someday she would understand.
My knowing in myself and in my work is defined by my experiences.
I have been taught well. I have seen and felt things over the years that are undeniably Kool and creepy, insightful, tear jerking, horrific and poignant. All as tangible as picking up a coffee mug in the morning and the first earthy sniff of that cup O’Joe.
I know who my guides are my spirit tribe. I know my connection. I know how I connect why I do, and for whom I am suppose too.
I also know I am sent every individual, be they human or animal, for a reason. For their growth, for mine, and sometimes, like in this case for you as well, the reader.
I am not defined by how good or bad or indifferent someone is to my work or the messages that come through. I have had specifics from top to Bolton of a reading only for a person to want more. I have had people hang off my every word only to find none of them were truly heard. And I have had readings that make me feel like I am the queen of all creation (grounding necessary after those incredible readings lol!)
None of them define me. They are experiences. Simply that. When one is complete I move to the next with gratitude and a good story under my belt, something to share and a better sense of the world and universe around me,
Allowing others to define us allows room for losing our sense of self within the work. We try to mould ourselves to others visions of us or the work we do. Defining us, working to know who we are m,our style, our voice, helps us to lead others in understanding what we do more deeply. And allows our genuine love and expertise in what we do to shine through.
All experiences are exceptional in their learnings.
Over my 24 years, I have come to love every person I read, every skeptic, every non-believer for how they help me grow.
They afford me the wisdoms I pass on to you. Wisdoms that few talk about that can help us all grow in in unique ways, with unique life perspectives, which ultimately is always my goal.
After this woman and I left each other, I had a day filled with amazing readings, and wonderful and gentle validations of how real this work is.
Having this mindset of gratitude for all experiences perceived good or bad keeps us healthy and feeling empowered.
In the end, we can only try and remember, not everyone will resonate. Be polite. Be gracious. Be understanding that, for what every reason, your not on the same vibe and it’s okay. It’s wisdom to know that. It’s wisdom to know that when you are supported and loved (as I am) that you are on the right track and your path is the correct one that you have been chosen for where you are a chef, dancer, lawyer, teacher or an energetic worker. Listen, dismiss nothing, gently act.